Advice-Good and Bad

If you’re newly married like Beau and I are or you’re engaged, you’ve probably heard people tell you that the “honeymoon period” won’t last forever. You won’t want to spend all your waking moments together. Give it six months and your dear husband won’t be helping with the dishes and letting you buy cute clothes at TJ Maxx anytime you want. Give it six months and you’re gorgeous wife will be harping on you to do more and what you do help with, you’re not doing right. Does all this sound familiar? Give it six months…

 

Yes, Beau and I have been hearing since before we were married. That happy, lovey feeling will go away.

 

Well gosh, way to get us excited about the future. That’s exactly what we wanted to hear. Beau and I aren’t dumb. We know that there will be hard times, but that doesn’t mean that it has to be a hard marriage void of fun and laughs and being that sickening married couple that looks so in love all the time.

 

If you’ve ever given “advice” like what I talked about at the beginning of this blog, please stop. It’s not helpful. It may seem “realistic”, but who needs that reality?

 

I just think that if people are going around saying that it’s normal for the wife to nag and complain and it’s normal for the husband to not help out around the house and not be romantic anymore, than that’s probably what they’re going to do. If the husband hasn’t taken the wife out on a romantic date in a few months, he can either think to himself that it’s normal and he doesn’t have to change or….he could think to himself that it’s not normal and do something about it.

 

Let’s not set up newly married couples for your “normal”. It’s like they say with parenting children. If you set the bar low, that’s as far as they’ll go. If you set the bar high, they’re reach it. Let’s set the expectations high.